Dear Twenty-Something, Starr Burroughs

Dear Twenty-something,
One thing I wish I knew in my twenties, or rather accepted, was that sometimes I would just need to endure. 
Yes, your twenties should be fun, adventurous, social, and full of hard work and determination. However, sometimes we just need to endure the tough times.
People don’t like to give that advice. It’s not the pat on the back that most people want. It’s not even very encouraging. It’s quite dull, to be honest.
Hebrews 10:35-36 says, “So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you. Patient endurance is what you need now so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that He has promised.”
So until you’ve gone through difficult times, until your patience has been stretched to the max, until you’ve been confronted by all the worst sides of yourself, and until you’ve come to the end of yourself, you may not understand what it means to endure. 
But if you’ve been there, or are there, remember that the writer of Hebrews encourages us to NOT throw away the confident trust we once had in God, but instead have patient endurance which will allow us to continue to do God’s will and receive ALL that He has promised.
I didn’t know in my twenties that endurance was (and still is) so difficult. I didn’t know that it would be necessary to get me from Glory TO Glory. I didn’t know that trusting in God would sometimes be down right challenging.
Now I do. Now I know that there is a battle before the breakthrough. Now I know that I, like the Israelites, will have to fight to receive that Promised Land that has already been given to me. Now I know that to overcome, and have victory in ares of life that I had never been a victor in, would require endurance. And a fight. And trust. And faith. And repentance. 
“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through fire, you will not be scorched, nor will the flame burn you.” (Isaiah 43:2 Amp)
“After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace (who imparts His blessing and favor), who called you to His own eternal glory in Christ, will Himself complete, confirm, strengthen, and establish you (making you what you ought to be).” (1 Peter 5:10 (Amp)
Remember, sometimes all you can see is the Sea.
Starr Burroughs
The Confident Single Woman Podcast
Author of The Ineligible Bachelorette, Podcast host of The Confident Single Woman and Love Coach to single Christian women
Starr Burroughs speaks candidly about roadblocks keeping women from finding love. She empowers women by encouraging them to honor God with their passions and live their lives to the fullest. Her ability to speak the truth in love as well as offering godly wisdom and insight makes her a sought after advisor.
Her and her husband are enjoying the wonderfully chaotic life that comes with having a little girl and boy. They currently reside in sunny Southern California.
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